I want to know what love is
I came across this little passage after doing some mindless clicking on Facebook. Since it made me ponder for slightly more than a minute before coming to a conclusion to keep my mind off it, I've decided to shamelessly take & display it here for my reader's viewing pleasure.
"Occasionally has random feelings of having a family.. beautiful wife..wonderful children.. haaaai...".
That, my readers, is honesty at it's purest state (However, do pardon the English. It is an informal form of expression after all). Before you regurgitate in disgust, think about it in a logical point of view. Why would anyone lie when they say such a thing?
If you think he was merely coming up with a good pick up line to mack on chicks, I'm sorry but that just isn't going to happen. That sort of thing would only work on single men/women who are slightly past the ideal marrying age. Desperation is the one thing that could make people throw away their principles, views, personal policies and believes on a whim.
My intention here is not to make a mockery out of his statement or anything along those lines. Although you might think that such thoughts make a person sound old, I would like to beg a differ. I view it as something sweet; to the point where your limbs start dropping off one by one. Not many have the courage to say such a thing. It's either they are willing to forsake their hard earned 6 packs for a beer belly or they are just looking at things in a verynaive innocent point of view. Let's hope it's not the latter.
What you want might not be what the other desires
I dare say, most younger people (Myself included. I'm 22 years young :x) are just not willing to commit in such an early stage in life. There are just too many factors & implications involved when it boils down to such a thing. You just can't walk up to any person and say: "Let's get married!" & think that a life filled with joy awaits you from that very moment on. You have to consider a lot of things even with just the human aspect alone.
Does he/she like you for you or your money?
How can you be sure?
How long have you known him/her for?
How much do you know about him/her?
Does his/her traits sound too good to be true?
What made you come to the conclusion that she was someone you could trust?
What if you were wrong?
What if he.she was reciprocating your feelings only to keep the game going to fulfill his/her selfish needs?
Who do you blame after that?
Why would you choose to drown yourself in misery when he/she was the main cause of it all?
What if you were right about her but she decided to change somewhere in the middle?
Arghhh!
In today's society where money has a chokehold on everyone's neck, it's no surprise that people can turn out to be ambitious. In their impression, the more money you get, the faster you slip yourself out of that chokehold. Two options available. Some choose to achieve as much as possible on their own while others will do anything to get there regardless of whether there are any moral implications involved. As long as they are not doing something against the law, their actions are justifiable.
Would you want to marry a person who cares about money more than anything else? Are your emotional/spiritual needs unnecessary?
Finding the right person sure is tough. Sure you might get along but when a major conflicting issues occurs, even a compromise might be difficult to reach. It is comparable to religion. There would never be a case where all religions can be rolled into one. If that happened it would be nothing more but plain blasphemy!
These are the aspects of a person that you might hardly/never get to see when you are just a friend to him/her. That is the main reason why I would encourage people who are on the shelf to take the first leap instead of waiting for that "ideal" person to climb up the shelf to fetch you.
Would a regular friend make such requests?
Everyone has a different personality behind their facade. Why is there a need for a facade in the first place? To leave a good impression on people of course. Sure it might last for a while but in due time, we'll see your true colours. A bad impression however gets stuck in you mind forever.
Example: "That girl has been violated by a dog before."
That sort of thing will create terrible mental images whenever I see that particular girl. No offense really but it's just my instincts telling me not to get too involved.
Most people choose reveal it to those who are close to them. Others would wait for you to find out about them yourself through experience. Know the person well before committing and please do not let your heart succumb to the softness.
If you know things are NOT going to work out in time to come, just pull the trigger and find someone else. I know I did. You might still like the guy/girl but it really is for your own good. When your relationship is hanging by a thread, it is worse than staying single. Why? Apart from not being able to have hugs & kisses, you'd face depression, walk around in a drunken stupor, thinking too much leading to insomnia etc. It just isn't worth it. It might be hard to keep your mind focused on something else like movies/shows whatever.
I know saying is so much easier compared than doing but if you are not going to take the first step, you'd just be wasting the hours of your life away. You might think that acting all "depressed" is a good way to attract the attention you desire but it gets tiresome after a while. I hate to say it but it just reminds you of "the boy who cried wolf". Do not take other people's sincerity for granted.
That being said, I'm not trying to scare the crap out of single people. I'm just stating the things that you might never put into consideration while you are having a crush on someone. I'm not saying that the first person you meet will not be the right one. I'm just saying that if the person you like isn't suitable for you, don't bother forcing it just move on. Take it as a normal phase in life and please do not make unnecessary sacrifices if that is not something that you'd do on a daily basis.
If a person likes you, he/she likes you. If not, too bad things are just not going to change. Even if you get together, things will get bland like the coffee they serve at McDonalds in no time. The fact remains the same. If he/she is not interested in you, why would he/she bother to understand you?
I guess that is why he mentioned "beautiful wife". The term beautiful does not equate to the worth of someone's face value. Sure you can claim that is just what ugly people say because God did not put in that much effort while molding them hence they are just trying to find all sorts of ways to make up for that imperfection but that is not true. For those elitist who think that looks is EVERYTHING, God probably took out some of your brain as extra material to carve out that nice set of double eyelids.
I've always claimed that I am an extremely superficial person who put looks before anything else when looking for a potential partner. Yes it's true that I always claim so but that is due to my lack of wit to come up with something funny. Besides, I'm not handsome enough to be picky with such things.
If you really look at the girls I liked previously, the first thing that would come out of your mouth is: "JERRY! YOU CALL THAT PRETTY? FASTER GO TO THE DOCTOR, THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOUR TASTE!"
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. In my eyes, if you are willing to accept a person even for his bad points, that is true beauty. It's just like Lois from the show Family Guy. Peter is fat & useless and always turns the house upside down but Lois still loves him despite all that.
Until I find such an aspect in anyone, I shall remain comfortable tucked withing the comfort zone of my shelf.
At least you don't get insomnia.
In conclusion for those people who are still waiting for the right one, try to gain as much experience as possible before knowing what you want. Live your life for someone only if you have nothing to live for. That being said, what I meant was be good & be true to yourself. Know who you are & what you need. Do not compromise unnecessarily because chances are you wouldn't be happy.
I got my answer really quick because my last relationship was a total wreck. I hope this post helps.
"Occasionally has random feelings of having a family.. beautiful wife..wonderful children.. haaaai...".
That, my readers, is honesty at it's purest state (However, do pardon the English. It is an informal form of expression after all). Before you regurgitate in disgust, think about it in a logical point of view. Why would anyone lie when they say such a thing?
If you think he was merely coming up with a good pick up line to mack on chicks, I'm sorry but that just isn't going to happen. That sort of thing would only work on single men/women who are slightly past the ideal marrying age. Desperation is the one thing that could make people throw away their principles, views, personal policies and believes on a whim.
My intention here is not to make a mockery out of his statement or anything along those lines. Although you might think that such thoughts make a person sound old, I would like to beg a differ. I view it as something sweet; to the point where your limbs start dropping off one by one. Not many have the courage to say such a thing. It's either they are willing to forsake their hard earned 6 packs for a beer belly or they are just looking at things in a very
What you want might not be what the other desires
I dare say, most younger people (Myself included. I'm 22 years young :x) are just not willing to commit in such an early stage in life. There are just too many factors & implications involved when it boils down to such a thing. You just can't walk up to any person and say: "Let's get married!" & think that a life filled with joy awaits you from that very moment on. You have to consider a lot of things even with just the human aspect alone.
Does he/she like you for you or your money?
How can you be sure?
How long have you known him/her for?
How much do you know about him/her?
Does his/her traits sound too good to be true?
What made you come to the conclusion that she was someone you could trust?
What if you were wrong?
What if he.she was reciprocating your feelings only to keep the game going to fulfill his/her selfish needs?
Who do you blame after that?
Why would you choose to drown yourself in misery when he/she was the main cause of it all?
What if you were right about her but she decided to change somewhere in the middle?
Arghhh!
In today's society where money has a chokehold on everyone's neck, it's no surprise that people can turn out to be ambitious. In their impression, the more money you get, the faster you slip yourself out of that chokehold. Two options available. Some choose to achieve as much as possible on their own while others will do anything to get there regardless of whether there are any moral implications involved. As long as they are not doing something against the law, their actions are justifiable.
Would you want to marry a person who cares about money more than anything else? Are your emotional/spiritual needs unnecessary?
Finding the right person sure is tough. Sure you might get along but when a major conflicting issues occurs, even a compromise might be difficult to reach. It is comparable to religion. There would never be a case where all religions can be rolled into one. If that happened it would be nothing more but plain blasphemy!
These are the aspects of a person that you might hardly/never get to see when you are just a friend to him/her. That is the main reason why I would encourage people who are on the shelf to take the first leap instead of waiting for that "ideal" person to climb up the shelf to fetch you.
Would a regular friend make such requests?
Everyone has a different personality behind their facade. Why is there a need for a facade in the first place? To leave a good impression on people of course. Sure it might last for a while but in due time, we'll see your true colours. A bad impression however gets stuck in you mind forever.
Example: "That girl has been violated by a dog before."
That sort of thing will create terrible mental images whenever I see that particular girl. No offense really but it's just my instincts telling me not to get too involved.
Most people choose reveal it to those who are close to them. Others would wait for you to find out about them yourself through experience. Know the person well before committing and please do not let your heart succumb to the softness.
If you know things are NOT going to work out in time to come, just pull the trigger and find someone else. I know I did. You might still like the guy/girl but it really is for your own good. When your relationship is hanging by a thread, it is worse than staying single. Why? Apart from not being able to have hugs & kisses, you'd face depression, walk around in a drunken stupor, thinking too much leading to insomnia etc. It just isn't worth it. It might be hard to keep your mind focused on something else like movies/shows whatever.
I know saying is so much easier compared than doing but if you are not going to take the first step, you'd just be wasting the hours of your life away. You might think that acting all "depressed" is a good way to attract the attention you desire but it gets tiresome after a while. I hate to say it but it just reminds you of "the boy who cried wolf". Do not take other people's sincerity for granted.
That being said, I'm not trying to scare the crap out of single people. I'm just stating the things that you might never put into consideration while you are having a crush on someone. I'm not saying that the first person you meet will not be the right one. I'm just saying that if the person you like isn't suitable for you, don't bother forcing it just move on. Take it as a normal phase in life and please do not make unnecessary sacrifices if that is not something that you'd do on a daily basis.
If a person likes you, he/she likes you. If not, too bad things are just not going to change. Even if you get together, things will get bland like the coffee they serve at McDonalds in no time. The fact remains the same. If he/she is not interested in you, why would he/she bother to understand you?
I guess that is why he mentioned "beautiful wife". The term beautiful does not equate to the worth of someone's face value. Sure you can claim that is just what ugly people say because God did not put in that much effort while molding them hence they are just trying to find all sorts of ways to make up for that imperfection but that is not true. For those elitist who think that looks is EVERYTHING, God probably took out some of your brain as extra material to carve out that nice set of double eyelids.
I've always claimed that I am an extremely superficial person who put looks before anything else when looking for a potential partner. Yes it's true that I always claim so but that is due to my lack of wit to come up with something funny. Besides, I'm not handsome enough to be picky with such things.
If you really look at the girls I liked previously, the first thing that would come out of your mouth is: "JERRY! YOU CALL THAT PRETTY? FASTER GO TO THE DOCTOR, THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOUR TASTE!"
Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. In my eyes, if you are willing to accept a person even for his bad points, that is true beauty. It's just like Lois from the show Family Guy. Peter is fat & useless and always turns the house upside down but Lois still loves him despite all that.
Until I find such an aspect in anyone, I shall remain comfortable tucked withing the comfort zone of my shelf.
At least you don't get insomnia.
In conclusion for those people who are still waiting for the right one, try to gain as much experience as possible before knowing what you want. Live your life for someone only if you have nothing to live for. That being said, what I meant was be good & be true to yourself. Know who you are & what you need. Do not compromise unnecessarily because chances are you wouldn't be happy.
I got my answer really quick because my last relationship was a total wreck. I hope this post helps.
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