Ghost Town
This entry is way overdue! My sincere apologies!
I gave the entire "你不了解女人的心 (You do not understand a woman's heart)" issue a significant amount of thought & yes, I've arrived to a conclusion (took you long enough).
Although I never really had the luxury of time to lie on my bed, stare at the wall & ponder about life, I'd never be satisfied if I left this matter alone. I've learned over the years that when someone tells you that there is a problem, chances are there is. It's a matter of whether you choose to be oblivious or not.
Think thrice before you start folding your arms & educating me about how ignorance is bliss. In all honesty, I can only think of so few situations where that overused phrase can fit in ever so nicely. For everything else, you're the one missing out, not me.
I started by gathering opinions from all sorts of people regarding the argument at hand. The idea was to search for some common ground in the midst of everything. It's times like these where I listen objectively even though my cynical self is renowned for being ridiculously biased & headstrong.
"Flexibility" used to be a default option in all versions prior to Jerry version no.5 but that was removed for a good reason or two. The closest option available now is "selective flexibility". Knowing myself best, I know that there is no turning back at this point & I do not wish to elaborate on that.
To get what I need, keeping an open mind is a must. The ends justify the means so why not? That being said, sometimes I feel as if my soul is like some prostitute while I'm the pimp. However, too much of any thing is never a good thing. Moderation is the key (I wish I could apply the same logic to my food consumption).
Before I get drifted away to the point of no return, I would like to quote a few notable conversations that took place in my quest for answers.
*Lucien shoved an article regarding how women think to Jerry*
*Jerry read the article. Amused, he commented.*
Jerry: That goes to show, women are very chee byee (Twats).
Lucien: Haha, make us men go online to read and understand girls.
Jerry: HAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA!
and....
Jerry: If girls were aware of the fact that I had a problem understanding the way they ticked, why didn’t they tell me about it?
Ping Ting: No, not every girl is the same. You just haven’t met someone who would take you as you are.
Jerry: Since none of them have really bothered to take me as I am, does that mean that every single girl that I’ve gone out with to date is actually lying to me just to reap the benefits? What kind of twisted logic is that? Why couldn't they be honest from the start?
What can we infer from the 2 scenarios? No idea? Well, if you haven't already noticed, here's the problem.
Most girls don't really know what they want.
Cruel world! I shall drown myself in this drain! Wait, maybe I should just stab myself in the thigh...
Jerry, it's not nice slabbing people with your biased generalisations & baseless accusations. Explain yourself before they gather in the masses & march to your house with torches in their hands.
I sincerely believe that unlike guys, girls don't have a clue on how to be straight forward. Although that might turn out to be a major pull factor for some guys (If the rule of opposites attract apply), an endless supply of miscommunication would be involved.
Everything is so hazy.
Yes I agree that a "substantial" conversation could be made within all that confusion but tell me, how long could it last? 5 years maybe but how about 20 years? It's no wonder the divorce rates are going up.
A biased statement indeed. Since remaining biased won't get me a satisfying answer, I had to see things in a different light. It was then I realised, girls also tend to rely more on their feelings while guys rely more on their heads (It's up to you to decide which one I'm referring to). It's no wonder girls hardly make any sense.
A common scenario. Let's picture a typical office set up. Let's just imagine that everyone in this example is beautiful. (A perfect world).
*Guy A walks up to Girl B & hands her a cup a coffee*
Guy A: You seem tired. This might perk you up. Extra sugar :).
Girl B: Ok.
Guy A hops away with a big grin across his face. However, Girl B would be thinking: "Alright! I don't have to get off my seat & make my own coffee! Lucky~ " & carries on with her work. To her, it really is nothing more than an act of kindness that anyone could do.
Then, her immediate superior Guy C steps in.
*Guy C dumps a stack of documents on Girl B's desk*
Guy C: Finish all this by evening. Just to let you know, the company is not going to pay you overtime for this.
*Guy C stomps off while Girl B is left sulking*
After going through half the papers, she notices a note. Apparently Guy C would like to ask her out for dinner after work later that evening to make up for all the mean things that he said to her.
Now at this point, Girl B is going to think about Guy C & not Guy A. Although Guy A's intentions were quite clear, they were not significant enough to grab Girl B's attention. Girl B's mind would already be filled with curse words for Guy C since he was the one who shoved so much work to her at the eleventh hour. Little did she know, her feelings are going to make a 360 degree change the after she reads the note.
Both making a cup of coffee & writing a note amounts to little or no effort at all. However, the person who manages to capture a girl's feeling wins the game. Which begs the question, why should there even be a game to start with?
A decent looking girl is bound to have quite a handful of suitors. It doesn't matter whether she is single, attached or even married. In today's society, morals are insignificant to the point where we have to be reminded ever so often of this little thing called karma.
To be brutally honest, those guys are all after her looks. That is how the first step of attraction begins. If Eve wasn't pretty at least in Adam's eyes, we would be non-existent. Guys are like aunties shopping for fish at a supermarket. We spend a great deal of time searching for the ideal looking one. Beauty is after all, in the eye of the beholder.
My interpretation of step number 2 is getting to know her better but every guy has a different approach. It's always good to be cautious.
A mutual attraction would save both parties a whole lot of time but girls might feel that if they let a guy win too easily, he would take her for granted in no time. To make him feel that she was worth all the trouble, she'd have to run a few stupid tests on him.
Although he might be the one that she likes the most, if he fails, that's fine. All she has to do is pick the one who manages to convince her to take a ride on the emotional roller coaster.
In simple terms, whoever makes her feel comfortable wins. You give her a sense of security, you win. Doesn't matter whether it's trampling on a cockroach or rescuing a cat from a tree. Feelings is something that can grow so that's probably the thing that girls are betting on. It's a slow investment with it's own set of benefits. However, the fastest way is shorten the distance between the 2 of you is just to have sex. The more the better!
Big returns? I'm in!
Now that is comparable to investing in shares. The returns might be great the the risks are always high.
From money to nothing.
Repeat the process when deemed necessary. As long as makeup is still readily available at your fingertips, nothing is impossible, at least to the superficial.
This nonsensical game is meant for girls who are not confident at keeping a guy by their side. With the increasing number if infidelities, it's no wonder that they are worried. You might think that there is a problem with your face but I think it's the choice you made that put you in such a state.
I feel that this problem can be dealt with easily. Know the guy well. Assess him accordingly instead of putting him through meaningless tests. Before entering a serious relationship, it is crucial to know the other party before making the next move.
Of course if you don't have the patience to do so, you are looking at a short termed relationship & shouldn't even be reading this entry. I'm impressed you made it this far.
That is why I say, girls don't know what they want. If they really used their heads to think, they wouldn't have the need to feel insecure 69% of the time. I understand that feelings play an important role in all this but times have changed. Screw feelings & start using your heads more! That is how other girls get ahead in the game while you are left stuck in a rut.
Everything that you've ever watched in a Disney film can NEVER be applied to a real life situation.
For those who choose to stick to their "Disney" mindset thinking that the right one would walk by eventually, fuck you & don't be lazy. You want it, you go out & get it. To score for a test, you'd have to study right? Sure there are geniuses around but chances are, it's not going to be you.
Get to know his intentions. Sure he can offer you certain luxuries to entice you but he can also take them away just like that. There are countless things we guys can do to make girls warm our beds. Who ever said the creator of the game can't suck at it? If you girls think your little game is flawless like the polished surface of your fingernail, you've got to be kidding.
That concludes my entry.
Comments are appreciated.
I gave the entire "你不了解女人的心 (You do not understand a woman's heart)" issue a significant amount of thought & yes, I've arrived to a conclusion (took you long enough).
Although I never really had the luxury of time to lie on my bed, stare at the wall & ponder about life, I'd never be satisfied if I left this matter alone. I've learned over the years that when someone tells you that there is a problem, chances are there is. It's a matter of whether you choose to be oblivious or not.
Think thrice before you start folding your arms & educating me about how ignorance is bliss. In all honesty, I can only think of so few situations where that overused phrase can fit in ever so nicely. For everything else, you're the one missing out, not me.
I started by gathering opinions from all sorts of people regarding the argument at hand. The idea was to search for some common ground in the midst of everything. It's times like these where I listen objectively even though my cynical self is renowned for being ridiculously biased & headstrong.
"Flexibility" used to be a default option in all versions prior to Jerry version no.5 but that was removed for a good reason or two. The closest option available now is "selective flexibility". Knowing myself best, I know that there is no turning back at this point & I do not wish to elaborate on that.
To get what I need, keeping an open mind is a must. The ends justify the means so why not? That being said, sometimes I feel as if my soul is like some prostitute while I'm the pimp. However, too much of any thing is never a good thing. Moderation is the key (I wish I could apply the same logic to my food consumption).
Before I get drifted away to the point of no return, I would like to quote a few notable conversations that took place in my quest for answers.
*Lucien shoved an article regarding how women think to Jerry*
*Jerry read the article. Amused, he commented.*
Jerry: That goes to show, women are very chee byee (Twats).
Lucien: Haha, make us men go online to read and understand girls.
Jerry: HAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA!
and....
Jerry: If girls were aware of the fact that I had a problem understanding the way they ticked, why didn’t they tell me about it?
Ping Ting: No, not every girl is the same. You just haven’t met someone who would take you as you are.
Jerry: Since none of them have really bothered to take me as I am, does that mean that every single girl that I’ve gone out with to date is actually lying to me just to reap the benefits? What kind of twisted logic is that? Why couldn't they be honest from the start?
What can we infer from the 2 scenarios? No idea? Well, if you haven't already noticed, here's the problem.
Most girls don't really know what they want.
Cruel world! I shall drown myself in this drain! Wait, maybe I should just stab myself in the thigh...
Jerry, it's not nice slabbing people with your biased generalisations & baseless accusations. Explain yourself before they gather in the masses & march to your house with torches in their hands.
I sincerely believe that unlike guys, girls don't have a clue on how to be straight forward. Although that might turn out to be a major pull factor for some guys (If the rule of opposites attract apply), an endless supply of miscommunication would be involved.
Everything is so hazy.
Yes I agree that a "substantial" conversation could be made within all that confusion but tell me, how long could it last? 5 years maybe but how about 20 years? It's no wonder the divorce rates are going up.
A biased statement indeed. Since remaining biased won't get me a satisfying answer, I had to see things in a different light. It was then I realised, girls also tend to rely more on their feelings while guys rely more on their heads (It's up to you to decide which one I'm referring to). It's no wonder girls hardly make any sense.
A common scenario. Let's picture a typical office set up. Let's just imagine that everyone in this example is beautiful. (A perfect world).
*Guy A walks up to Girl B & hands her a cup a coffee*
Guy A: You seem tired. This might perk you up. Extra sugar :).
Girl B: Ok.
Guy A hops away with a big grin across his face. However, Girl B would be thinking: "Alright! I don't have to get off my seat & make my own coffee! Lucky~ " & carries on with her work. To her, it really is nothing more than an act of kindness that anyone could do.
Then, her immediate superior Guy C steps in.
*Guy C dumps a stack of documents on Girl B's desk*
Guy C: Finish all this by evening. Just to let you know, the company is not going to pay you overtime for this.
*Guy C stomps off while Girl B is left sulking*
After going through half the papers, she notices a note. Apparently Guy C would like to ask her out for dinner after work later that evening to make up for all the mean things that he said to her.
Now at this point, Girl B is going to think about Guy C & not Guy A. Although Guy A's intentions were quite clear, they were not significant enough to grab Girl B's attention. Girl B's mind would already be filled with curse words for Guy C since he was the one who shoved so much work to her at the eleventh hour. Little did she know, her feelings are going to make a 360 degree change the after she reads the note.
Both making a cup of coffee & writing a note amounts to little or no effort at all. However, the person who manages to capture a girl's feeling wins the game. Which begs the question, why should there even be a game to start with?
A decent looking girl is bound to have quite a handful of suitors. It doesn't matter whether she is single, attached or even married. In today's society, morals are insignificant to the point where we have to be reminded ever so often of this little thing called karma.
To be brutally honest, those guys are all after her looks. That is how the first step of attraction begins. If Eve wasn't pretty at least in Adam's eyes, we would be non-existent. Guys are like aunties shopping for fish at a supermarket. We spend a great deal of time searching for the ideal looking one. Beauty is after all, in the eye of the beholder.
My interpretation of step number 2 is getting to know her better but every guy has a different approach. It's always good to be cautious.
A mutual attraction would save both parties a whole lot of time but girls might feel that if they let a guy win too easily, he would take her for granted in no time. To make him feel that she was worth all the trouble, she'd have to run a few stupid tests on him.
Although he might be the one that she likes the most, if he fails, that's fine. All she has to do is pick the one who manages to convince her to take a ride on the emotional roller coaster.
In simple terms, whoever makes her feel comfortable wins. You give her a sense of security, you win. Doesn't matter whether it's trampling on a cockroach or rescuing a cat from a tree. Feelings is something that can grow so that's probably the thing that girls are betting on. It's a slow investment with it's own set of benefits. However, the fastest way is shorten the distance between the 2 of you is just to have sex. The more the better!
Big returns? I'm in!
Now that is comparable to investing in shares. The returns might be great the the risks are always high.
From money to nothing.
Repeat the process when deemed necessary. As long as makeup is still readily available at your fingertips, nothing is impossible, at least to the superficial.
This nonsensical game is meant for girls who are not confident at keeping a guy by their side. With the increasing number if infidelities, it's no wonder that they are worried. You might think that there is a problem with your face but I think it's the choice you made that put you in such a state.
I feel that this problem can be dealt with easily. Know the guy well. Assess him accordingly instead of putting him through meaningless tests. Before entering a serious relationship, it is crucial to know the other party before making the next move.
Of course if you don't have the patience to do so, you are looking at a short termed relationship & shouldn't even be reading this entry. I'm impressed you made it this far.
That is why I say, girls don't know what they want. If they really used their heads to think, they wouldn't have the need to feel insecure 69% of the time. I understand that feelings play an important role in all this but times have changed. Screw feelings & start using your heads more! That is how other girls get ahead in the game while you are left stuck in a rut.
Everything that you've ever watched in a Disney film can NEVER be applied to a real life situation.
For those who choose to stick to their "Disney" mindset thinking that the right one would walk by eventually, fuck you & don't be lazy. You want it, you go out & get it. To score for a test, you'd have to study right? Sure there are geniuses around but chances are, it's not going to be you.
Get to know his intentions. Sure he can offer you certain luxuries to entice you but he can also take them away just like that. There are countless things we guys can do to make girls warm our beds. Who ever said the creator of the game can't suck at it? If you girls think your little game is flawless like the polished surface of your fingernail, you've got to be kidding.
That concludes my entry.
Comments are appreciated.
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