To love sombody
Ever encountered a case where you were unsure whether you are in love with someone?
Happens to me all the time, just that I've never put much thought into it. I could not determine whether it was going to be a mere passing phase or something serious. At least for now, it is not my list of priorities. However, I wouldn't say the same thing in 5 years time.
This question surfaced after someone whom I used to like contacted me recently. Apparently we drifted apart simply because neither side bothered to keep in close touch with the other.
Jerry, why didn't you guys keep in touch like how normal friends should? She didn't piss you off right?
She wasn't someone who shared the same interests as me. She was just someone whom I've worked with for an assignment.
However, when you have positive feelings for someone, I'm sure you'd have a shitload of things to talk about. From pointless things like how nice the weather is to how passing thoughts like how pretty her dress looks. It's the little bits and pieces that really matter when engaging in small talk (no pun intended yet again).
When you realise that you don't have romantic feelings for a person anymore, there wouldn't be a need to engage in any form of small talk. It becomes a case where "It is no longer an obligation to think of ways and means to keep you entertained". I know that statement makes you sound like a total jerk but that is the reality of life and it happens ever so often. Get used to it.
I know it's not the nicest way to shrug someone off but at least those premature romantic feelings wouldn't have much of a chance to manifest into something uncontrollable; to the point where you put your life on the line for the most nonsensical reasons.
Which is better? Sitting or flying?
I don't need friends to talk rubbish to. If I threw a stone out of my window, I'm bound to hit someone who could fulfill such a role. I need friends whom I could talk to regarding things that matter to myself.
Whether they are from informal things like hobbies to serious matters like work, you'd know that you are more or less having a substantial conversation. I'm living life to the fullest, not lazing around at a coffee shop sipping one small cup of coffee from morning till night.
That, is my answer to the question above.
Ermm, ok.... Why didn't you confess your feelings to her back then?
You might be interested in a person at first but after a few conversations and outings, you just don't feel anything special him/her hence making a hasty conclusion that she wasn't going to be suitable for you. For me, I'd always tell myself: "Need more time to think" because I do not have short termed relationships/flings in mind" .
However, I only realised that I've made a big mistake only after she found herself a boyfriend. The jealousy that was being built up within that one moment made it safe to conclude that I liked her after all.
I hate it when unnecessary feelings emerge from the depths of your heart. Do I miss you only after I'm being reminded of the fact that I used to hold the torch for you? Sounds nothing more than a selfish emotion that is better off being sealed away.There was nothing much I could do. No point crying over spilled milk so I moved on.
Ohhh... Ok that would be all for now.
This simply goes to show that time waits for no one. For those people who claim that they've liked someone for 6 long years but never really found the right time to approach, please don't waste your time.
Waiting for that long for someone is a real sweet gesture but please, you've got to love yourself before you can love others. I can't translate that sentence into any other languages so if that piece of advice doesn't get into your head, all I can say is I've tried my best to help.
Too little too late
I really wonder sometimes, how would it feel when you finally meet the right one? How could you be sure? Would it be worth the while in the end?
Time will tell. Probably.
Happens to me all the time, just that I've never put much thought into it. I could not determine whether it was going to be a mere passing phase or something serious. At least for now, it is not my list of priorities. However, I wouldn't say the same thing in 5 years time.
This question surfaced after someone whom I used to like contacted me recently. Apparently we drifted apart simply because neither side bothered to keep in close touch with the other.
Jerry, why didn't you guys keep in touch like how normal friends should? She didn't piss you off right?
She wasn't someone who shared the same interests as me. She was just someone whom I've worked with for an assignment.
However, when you have positive feelings for someone, I'm sure you'd have a shitload of things to talk about. From pointless things like how nice the weather is to how passing thoughts like how pretty her dress looks. It's the little bits and pieces that really matter when engaging in small talk (no pun intended yet again).
When you realise that you don't have romantic feelings for a person anymore, there wouldn't be a need to engage in any form of small talk. It becomes a case where "It is no longer an obligation to think of ways and means to keep you entertained". I know that statement makes you sound like a total jerk but that is the reality of life and it happens ever so often. Get used to it.
I know it's not the nicest way to shrug someone off but at least those premature romantic feelings wouldn't have much of a chance to manifest into something uncontrollable; to the point where you put your life on the line for the most nonsensical reasons.
Which is better? Sitting or flying?
I don't need friends to talk rubbish to. If I threw a stone out of my window, I'm bound to hit someone who could fulfill such a role. I need friends whom I could talk to regarding things that matter to myself.
Whether they are from informal things like hobbies to serious matters like work, you'd know that you are more or less having a substantial conversation. I'm living life to the fullest, not lazing around at a coffee shop sipping one small cup of coffee from morning till night.
That, is my answer to the question above.
Ermm, ok.... Why didn't you confess your feelings to her back then?
You might be interested in a person at first but after a few conversations and outings, you just don't feel anything special him/her hence making a hasty conclusion that she wasn't going to be suitable for you. For me, I'd always tell myself: "Need more time to think" because I do not have short termed relationships/flings in mind" .
However, I only realised that I've made a big mistake only after she found herself a boyfriend. The jealousy that was being built up within that one moment made it safe to conclude that I liked her after all.
I hate it when unnecessary feelings emerge from the depths of your heart. Do I miss you only after I'm being reminded of the fact that I used to hold the torch for you? Sounds nothing more than a selfish emotion that is better off being sealed away.There was nothing much I could do. No point crying over spilled milk so I moved on.
Ohhh... Ok that would be all for now.
This simply goes to show that time waits for no one. For those people who claim that they've liked someone for 6 long years but never really found the right time to approach, please don't waste your time.
Waiting for that long for someone is a real sweet gesture but please, you've got to love yourself before you can love others. I can't translate that sentence into any other languages so if that piece of advice doesn't get into your head, all I can say is I've tried my best to help.
Too little too late
I really wonder sometimes, how would it feel when you finally meet the right one? How could you be sure? Would it be worth the while in the end?
Time will tell. Probably.
2 Comments:
Wow---this was a good blog. And I chanced upon it randomly.
Thanks for reading! Well, I'm still making a few adjustments with this blog. Need to compile my favourite entries on the side bar for easy reference haha!
have fun writing too :).
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